When I was on my third trimester for my first child I had a lot of stuffs going on then. I was anxious about the D-Day, I was already overwhelmed by the load I was carrying and much worse we got disconnected from power as the bills were alot for us.
It was tough and I couldn’t stop thinking about all of these issues. I wanted the power connected for us back as I couldn’t imagine my baby being born to a home without power (I wanted everything to be perfect), I wanted the date of the supposed birth of my baby to come real fast (I was really excited to meet him) and I just wanted to drop my load!
But what did all these worries get me?
A rise in my blood pressure, a sudden trip to the hospital because the baby was distressed and Insomnia. At this point I had to do something before things could get any worse because I couldn’t risk any more complications. That was when I developed the short term memory mechanism and it has become one of my principles.
I made myself forget any worry as soon as it comes. Anything that disturbed my peace of mind was best forgotten. It wasn’t worth the energy. Then I focused more on Du’a. I began to put everything to Allaah as HE is the controller of all affairs and HE had all the answers for me. That was when I began to truly find relief.
Now that all those worries and pains are gone- Allaah solved them at the best time and in the most beautiful manners- I look back at those times and begin to question myself.
● Why/How did I allow myself to forget Allaah, when he was indeed closer to me than my jugular veins?
● Is it just okay to know what tawakkul (reliance upon Allaah) is or to actually practice it in it’s true sense?
These questions and those events that happened made me realize that it is not enough to know that Allaah is the one whom we should rely upon always but that intentionally acting upon that knowledge is also important. Everyday we need to learn and practice tawakkul. There would always be pains, trials, tribulations, worries in fact there is nothing we can do about them because they are innate. It is by divine wisdom that we face trials, feel pains, have worries all so that we can call upon HIM.
It is Shaytan the devil that makes these worries seem so compounding almost leading to our destruction, he tries to make it look like it is never ending or that we can’t come out of it fine. But that is all wrong. We can be fine, we would be fine!
Look at it this way, if we really do not have problems how would we remember to call on Allaah? We would feel too confident and powerful of ourselves and our abilities, SubhaanAllaah. This is one wisdom of these hardships which are like double blessings in disguise and it is so that we can all go back to HIM in submission calling on HIM, asking for HIS forgiveness and mercy. It is even more beautiful, this act of asking HIM because Allaah is so pleased when we ask HIM.
What should be our attitude when bad things happen?
● Short Term Memory: Forget it. Let it go. Leave it to the one who controls all affairs. If we can’t do anything about it now, brooding over it wouldn’t make it better so put it aside.
● What has happened is in the past, leave it there. Today is for work, so work hard to accomplish good today.
●Remember your Lord and call upon HIM with the most beautiful of names, HE is truly indeed closer to you than your jugular veins.
These above are what I am learning to practice every day for myself. To try (it can’t be too easy) every time to forget the pains, to work to make good for myself and rely on Allaah in all my affairs. This is me now and I hope you can too.
I pray to the Lord of the universe, the mighty and majestic, the one who is oft-forgiving, most merciful all knowing, to inspire us to remember HIM when we forget, to thank HIM, to count us amongst HIS thankful slaves, to bless us in the best of manners and to wrap us in HIS mercy and forgiveness. Aameen.